28.07.15How to rise from the cloud of self neglect

I’m writing this whilst high up in the sky, crossing the Atlantic ocean. Somewhere between Madrid and Guatemala. This might sound silly but I’m liking that I will be stuck on this plane for 11 hours or so, it forces me to ‘stop’ and just sit. Nowhere to go. Only time to rest and write. Exactly what I need right now…

The last few weeks have been a whirling blur. Head, heart and soul.

I felt deflated, permanently hungover, floating somewhere between existing and living, feeling like things were spinning out of control and not being able to get a handle on what I’m doing or where I’m going. It felt purposeless.

Fun but without direction.

Clarity gone.

Focus non-existent.

After a few weeks in this funny head space, the questions begun. What is wrong with me? Why can’t I shake this feeling? Feeling ‘down’ is probably the best way to describe it but because I didn’t know what was ‘up’ I wasn’t sure how to change this. So I kept going. continue reading

09.06.15wanderlust

It’s Friday evening, around 6.30pm, and I’m on the train home from work. I look out of the window and see the London skyline unfolding in front of me. What a beautiful city, especially when the sun is shining it’s light. I look up and see a plane. I wonder where it’s going. Somewhere adventurous? Somewhere far? One more week and it will be me high up in the sky, on a plane. I can’t wait to get away.

Wanderlust. I am craving this. My soul is screaming for it. I want to break free.

Do you recognise this? This get-me-outta-here kinda sensation? Yep, I hear you. And having spoken to many people I also know this feeling isn’t rare either. I get this itchy feeling; I have been in the same place for too long. My senses are longing for something different. A change of scenery. A change of culture. A place for me to explore. The unknown.  continue reading

12.05.15i’m blog-hearted, are you?

blog hearted

You’re thinking…

I want to write.

I want to express.

I want to create.

I want to connect.

I want to share.

I want to make a difference.

I want to be heard.

I want to be part of something bigger.

I know. I have been there. I tried going at it alone but I needed support. Craved support. I needed feedback. I needed to be held accountable. I needed to know that I wasn’t the only one struggling. Collective fears. Collective doubts. Collective passions. Love. I needed to express my love for the work and words of others and be loved in return. continue reading

21.04.15make change work for you

“If you want something you’ve never had, then you’ve got to do something you have never done”
- Thomas Jefferson

If you want something you’ve never had, you have to embrace change for you to get what you desire. From my personal and my coaching experience, I know this is easier said than done. Because how do you embrace change if it brings you to almost paralysing overwhelm? How do you make change work for you?

Change is a big word. It has a different meaning to different people and everyone approaches change in their own unique way. Change can happen gradually. Like growing up, it doesn’t happen overnight. I’m now a different person than I used to be a couple of years ago, however getting here was quite a journey.

Change can happen subliminally. You might not even know it’s happening. Or change can happen in a flash; when a loved one passes away out of the blue (heaven forbid). And change can be a choice. Like accepting a new job or getting a new hair do. continue reading

14.04.15spotlight on – natalie costa

spotlight onI will never forget the first time I met Natalie. I was at a coaching training day on confidence and because it was a one-off I was there by myself. Even though I’m quite outgoing and comfortable talking to people I have never met before, I am also quite shy. I’m not the best at starting the conversation and always spend some time feeling my way through the vibe. I sat next to a couple of very chatty ladies, one of them being Natalie. They opened the conversation and from then on the words just flowed. Literally. we. couldn’t. stop. talking. Natalie and I discovered we both live in London, are navigating the field of confidence in our coaching and are multi-passioned. Fast forward several months and we meet up on a regular basis, are still constantly talking and are even planning our first ever workshop together. I’d like you to meet this gal! She’s without a doubt one of the most bubbly girls I have the pleasure to have in my life. Throw in a dose of positivity, dream-chasing and generosity, and she soon becomes one of your favourite people. Given she’s a Confidence Coach, it’s only appropriate to chat to her about this big topic. So here we go; meet Natalie!

What does confidence mean to you?

In my opinion confidence is about  being bold, being brave, moving out of your comfort zone and doing it anyway! It’s about being willing to stretch yourself just that ‘little bit more’ and feel uncomfortable,  yet still taking the necessary actions to get you to where you want to be. continue reading