08.11.15Finding my voice – part l

You know this feeling of when you have something to say but you don’t know how to say it? You can’t find the right words or the words don’t come out properly. You find it hard to capture the essence of your message. You think about it so much that you’ve lost your trail of thoughts and what you were trying to say in the first place.

What if people think I’m stupid?

What if people think I’m silly? 

What if my message doesn’t resonate?

What if I don’t know what I’m talking about?

What if, what if…


I don’t write as well as others out there 

They know how to always say things better than me

Why would I even bother? 

There is so much stuff out there, it will just get lost in space.

Why would anyone be interested in what I have to say? No one will ever visit my site.

This is how I felt for quite some time. I felt I have so much to say but with all these thoughts floating around in my mind I didn’t seem able to tap into that sweet energy. 

Also I couldn’t find the words to say ‘it’. And if I look deeper, I didn’t really know what my voice was. I didn’t know if I even had a voice. An authentic one. One that speaks from my own heart and turns into beautifully flowing words that light up a page. Yes that last one I felt was more lacking than anything else.

There were times I thought I should give up writing and blogging. Is there a point to this any way?

Over the last few years I have experimented a lot when it comes to my blog and writing. I had it all designed when it first launched (back in 2012), to only completely neglect it and ditch it all a year later because it felt that it wasn’t me anymore.

My content and posts were all over the place. From my favourite places to visit and talking the importance of friendship, to going a bit deeper and sharing how I feel about life and reviewing beauty products. That last one – epic fail. I am not a beauty blogger, never wanted to be and never going to be. But with all the options out there it sometimes gets overwhelming and you think you have to do it all.

I love to write, that is the truth, and it complements my coaching business beautifully. So not writing wasn’t really an option. Although at times I must admit it did sound like the easier option. Exactly, easier. Nothing good comes easy, this is something I know to be true. Also – passion and love is what makes the world go round so why give up on something I’m deeply passionate about?

Finding my voice

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Let’s go back to the beginning of the year. It hit me I would be turning 30 in 2.5 years. I know this sounds crazy but what it, once more, pointed out to me is that time is going incredibly fast. And even though I have achieved great things over the past years, there are somethings I haven’t paid the amount of attention I would have liked to.

Like writing. To be a better writer. To find my voice and audience and be able to add value for the people I write for. And above all, to be authentic and creative. I had come to terms with the fact that I will never be one of those bloggers that posts a couple of times a week, or every week even.

However if being a better writer is one of my desires, why haven’t I done anything about that?!

My main bugbears were that I felt my About Me and Work With Me pages on my website didn’t really capture the essence of little old me; what I stand for, why I do what I do and all that jazz. In a way it felt distant, not truly me (or at least not me anymore – gosh how quickly a person can change) and I wasn’t quite sure how to change this. I felt it was lacking authenticity. 

This is where Leah comes in. She is the creator and voice behind Paper Planes Connect. I don’t really know what to say next because this woman just blows me away. There are no words to describe her insane talent and the energy she embraces her work with. She is not only great with words and a brilliant storyteller; Leah is great with life. I opted for a writing coach and I got a life coach on top of that. A very sweet deal and saying I’m grateful is an understatement.

How my work with Leah further unfolded I will be sharing with you next week in part II of this mini blog series.

So if you ever wonder; is there a point to this all?

YES lovely, there is a point. It’s what you do, it’s who you are, you cannot ignore this.

Like Marie Forleo says: “the world needs that special gift that only you have…”

If my words are resonating with you, or you simply like to share your thoughts, I would love to hear from you beautiful. How are you finding your voice?

7 thoughts on “Finding my voice – part l

  1. Carly

    HI beautiful,

    Your writing is amazing and I have loved seeing it and your journey unfold and evolve – for it truly has. I feel you have found your style , vibe and flow sweetie and that makes it all shine with authenticity.
    When the times right im inspired to work with a coach of some kind – although maybe more in a supportive life style perhaps? Leah sounds brilliant to work with. But your words are all yours so be very proud. xxx

    1. Nikki Post author

      Hi lovely – thank you so much for your supportive words. It means a lot. When you’re ready I can highly recommend working with a writing coach and Leah is more than fantastic. Do let me know if you like to talk this through. Lots of love x

  2. Leah Davies

    YOU are an incredible writer with so much to say. These are all your words. Your very own voice that the world is eager to hear. You have equally inspired me on this writing journey and I can’t wait for the grand reveal!! Big love xo

    1. Nikki Post author

      Oh honey that makes me so happy you saying that :)! Thank you and I can’t wait to start working together again. BIG HUG x

  3. Pam - Organized! by Pam


    I felt exactly the same way before I relaunched my blog last June. I saw myself writing just so I could put ‘something’ out there. It wasn’t coming from my heart at all. So I took a break and rediscovered myself through reading actual books, listening to podcasts, reading other blogs and then writing again without any influence. Just writing it all out and letting the words fill up the place. Embracing the shitty first draft and letting it go. I didn’t end up publishing what I wrote that time but man, I felt fired up after! I’m so curious as to what you and Leah worked on! Looking forward to the next part ;)

    Lots of love and ‘you go girl!’ cheers,

    1. Nikki Post author

      Pam thank you so much for your lovely comment. Sounds like you exactly understand what I have been going through. The concept of writing something and not hitting publish is an odd one sometimes, as no one will read the words. This is something I had to let go of as it’s perfectly fine, great even, to write for just you and you only. Your support means the world, very grateful xo

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